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We Should All Be FeministsWe Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

The book defines a feminist as anyone who wishes to have equality of gender. An idealistic thought, but difficult to realize in a male dominated society. So should we not aim for it? No definitely one should aim for it. As the author rightly points out in one place it requires us to provide a different upbringing to our children of either gender.

Any for of equality requires education and a social revolution. It will take a few generations for the humans to accept the equality. It took quite a while for women suffrage, today after close to a century we are talking of the possibility of a woman becoming the President of what is considered to be the most powerful country in the world. One can also see where the resistance to a woman President is coming, the while male.

It took a while for legal abolition of slavery and it took more than a century for it to be really implemented in some manner. It is still an unfinished task, the white supremacy has not yet petered off.

Similarly the gender equality will require a lot of social change. What Chimamanda wishes for will take time to be realized.

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Rohit Kumar has a very good post on how women are made objects of desire and treated badly. He has highlighted how the Entertainment Industry has denigrated the status of women.

My response to the post is as follow:

Well said.

The moot point is why do the women not take steps to ensure that such a situation does not arise, not that the men can shrug off their responsibility, but women have a role to play too.

Why cannot every mother, sister, aunt, grandmother, sensitize their son, brother, nephew, grandson to the other gender. Why do these women not teach their male relatives to behave? This will go a long way towards bringing equality and mutual respect between the genders.

Have we wondered why we have the stereo type mothers-in-law but not stereo type fathers-in-law? Is it ingrained into our women to belittle other women?

Unfortunately there is no doubt that we are a male dominated society where man dictates, but if all the women get together and educate, sensitize the males around them the world would be a much better place.

At the other end we have the feminist who wish to dominate the men. Both the extremes are bad for the society.

Any relationship where one dominates over the other and there is lack of mutual respect is a relationship filled with hatred, bile, jealousy and all the other negative attributes. There is no love.

It is only in relationship where each considers the other equal is there peace harmony, trust and hence love.

This applies to individuals as well as society. Try and analyze why we talk about racism, casteism, imperialism, religion base differences. All of this arises because one does not think the other is one’s equal.

This is true of the relationship between gender too.

Hope there is a social revolution to get rid of this situation.